Ceremony Builder 1All about you2Your story3Legal bits4Vows, Readings, Rituals5Wrap up The following questionnaire will take you through all aspects of the ceremony. At the very bottom of the page you can submit or save your draft to come back to it later. If you choose to save for later, a link will be emailed to you and you will have 30 days to complete the questionnaire. All about you!Party 1 Name First Middle Last Party 2 Name First Middle Last Date MM slash DD slash YYYY Time : Hours Minutes AM PM AM/PM Address Street Address Address Line 2 City State / Province / Region ZIP / Postal Code AfghanistanAlbaniaAlgeriaAmerican SamoaAndorraAngolaAnguillaAntarcticaAntigua and BarbudaArgentinaArmeniaArubaAustraliaAustriaAzerbaijanBahamasBahrainBangladeshBarbadosBelarusBelgiumBelizeBeninBermudaBhutanBoliviaBonaire, Sint Eustatius and SabaBosnia and HerzegovinaBotswanaBouvet IslandBrazilBritish Indian Ocean TerritoryBrunei DarussalamBulgariaBurkina FasoBurundiCabo VerdeCambodiaCameroonCanadaCayman IslandsCentral African RepublicChadChileChinaChristmas IslandCocos IslandsColombiaComorosCongoCongo, Democratic Republic of theCook IslandsCosta RicaCroatiaCubaCuraçaoCyprusCzechiaCôte d'IvoireDenmarkDjiboutiDominicaDominican RepublicEcuadorEgyptEl SalvadorEquatorial GuineaEritreaEstoniaEswatiniEthiopiaFalkland IslandsFaroe IslandsFijiFinlandFranceFrench GuianaFrench PolynesiaFrench Southern TerritoriesGabonGambiaGeorgiaGermanyGhanaGibraltarGreeceGreenlandGrenadaGuadeloupeGuamGuatemalaGuernseyGuineaGuinea-BissauGuyanaHaitiHeard Island and McDonald IslandsHoly SeeHondurasHong KongHungaryIcelandIndiaIndonesiaIranIraqIrelandIsle of ManIsraelItalyJamaicaJapanJerseyJordanKazakhstanKenyaKiribatiKorea, Democratic People's Republic ofKorea, Republic ofKuwaitKyrgyzstanLao People's Democratic RepublicLatviaLebanonLesothoLiberiaLibyaLiechtensteinLithuaniaLuxembourgMacaoMadagascarMalawiMalaysiaMaldivesMaliMaltaMarshall IslandsMartiniqueMauritaniaMauritiusMayotteMexicoMicronesiaMoldovaMonacoMongoliaMontenegroMontserratMoroccoMozambiqueMyanmarNamibiaNauruNepalNetherlandsNew CaledoniaNew ZealandNicaraguaNigerNigeriaNiueNorfolk IslandNorth MacedoniaNorthern Mariana IslandsNorwayOmanPakistanPalauPalestine, State ofPanamaPapua New GuineaParaguayPeruPhilippinesPitcairnPolandPortugalPuerto RicoQatarRomaniaRussian FederationRwandaRéunionSaint BarthélemySaint Helena, Ascension and Tristan da CunhaSaint Kitts and NevisSaint LuciaSaint MartinSaint Pierre and MiquelonSaint Vincent and the GrenadinesSamoaSan MarinoSao Tome and PrincipeSaudi ArabiaSenegalSerbiaSeychellesSierra LeoneSingaporeSint MaartenSlovakiaSloveniaSolomon IslandsSomaliaSouth AfricaSouth Georgia and the South Sandwich IslandsSouth SudanSpainSri LankaSudanSurinameSvalbard and Jan MayenSwedenSwitzerlandSyria Arab RepublicTaiwanTajikistanTanzania, the United Republic ofThailandTimor-LesteTogoTokelauTongaTrinidad and TobagoTunisiaTurkmenistanTurks and Caicos IslandsTuvaluTürkiyeUS Minor Outlying IslandsUgandaUkraineUnited Arab EmiratesUnited KingdomUnited StatesUruguayUzbekistanVanuatuVenezuelaViet NamVirgin Islands, BritishVirgin Islands, U.S.Wallis and FutunaWestern SaharaYemenZambiaZimbabweÅland Islands Country Setting the sceneIt’s absolutely your day, and the ceremony helps shape and set the “tone” of your day, so think about the atmosphere you’d like to create. I have created an example of what the ceremony will look like once we are done... View Example Order of ServiceThink back to some of the other weddings you may have attended - are there any do’s or dont’s from those experiences?Photos/Social MediaMany couples want the opportunity to be the first to "post" about their wedding day. If this is your preference all it takes is a statement from me before the ceremony starts. Something like... "our couple have engaged the wonderful services of (photographer name) today. There will be plenty of opportunities for photos later on, but for this short while, they request that you just sit and enjoy the ceremony" Social media We don't mind No photos at all No posting to social media please Name of Photographer Facebook/Twitter Hashtag Celebrating Your Life BlogWhile we are on the topic, I have started my own blog about the amazing places this job takes me. Would you be open to my posting something unique and special about your ceremony on the day? Sure no problem No thank you Acknowledgement of LandFor some of you, it might be appropriate to consider a traditional acknowledgement of the land….if you do, then this might be how it works "I wish to start our ceremony today by acknowledging the traditional owners of the land, the (insert local name here) people and to pay our respects to their elders past and present". Is this something you would like to include? Yes No MusicMusic is also going to help set the scene. There are so many options these days, small string orchestra, live acoustic, downloads. I have contacts for all of these should you wish. What sort of music are you thinking of? Live music, yes! Please send us through your contacts We will organise the live music ourselves Recorded music (please see next question) If you choose recorded music I have a blue tooth and phone app that can control the music from where we are standing so if we need to replay or shorten the music…it’s all there in the front of my folder! I include 4 downloads as part of my fee, however if the music is very obscure I may need you to send it to me as an MP3 file. A piece for walking in...Something for when you're signing...and the music you’d like to exit to….the one that really tells your guests it’s time to party!A Giving Away/Presenting for Marriage"Presenting someone for marriage" or "Giving Away" is a very traditional element of a wedding ceremony. It's important for some - and not for others. It involves bride/groom/partners being walked down the aisle with someone special and being asked “Who presents this person for marriage?” The answer (of course) is “I do.” These days, many couples adapt this…. And you can do anything you like. You can walk down the aisle on your own, with a friend, both parents or other family representatives….completely up to you. Would you like to include a "Giving Away?" * Yes No If you would like to consider involving all the parents at this point, it is becoming popular to have all parents stand together once everyone has made their entrance. If this was something you’d like to incorporate, the response to “who presents this person for marriage?” would be “we do” by all the parents. Kisses and hugs are exchanged and then they take their seats. Of course there are other ways to involve parents in the formal part of your day - acting as witnesses to your marriage certificates, presenting a reading, or providing them with an opportunity to come forward during the ceremony to give you both a kiss and a cuddle. In some instances an additional element can be introduced where the parents can all come up and stand around the couple – almost like a “blessing” of sorts, and offer them their love and support. All of this is completely optional and we can discuss this as we go along. However, at this point, I’d like to hear your thoughts about parental involvement (if any). Your StoryWithout going into too much detail, or anything too revealing and personal, it’s a nice touch in a civil ceremony to hear a few insights for a few minutes about what has brought you to this point in your lives today… it can be funny and sentimental, but it’s also an opportunity to tell your guests a little about your hopes for the future and how pleased you are that they are all here to celebrate with you. So I’ve asked a few questions below to help share this part of the ceremony...Can you say a little bit about when you met and how your relationship developed?Can you describe some of the strengths and qualities about you as a couple?What are some of the quirky and fun things about you as a couple? e.g. what would you say is your superpower?Do you have any stories or significant (or possibly humorous) moments that you would like to include in this short section of your ceremony?Why are you wishing to hold this ceremony?What will being married add to your relationship?Describe some of your hopes for the future.Is there a particular reason you have chosen this time of year or this location? The MonitumBy law, before vows are exchange, I am obliged the read the Monitum from the Marriage Act of 1961. It goes like this: "As a civil marriage celebrant, I have the great pleasure and the authority to solemnise marriages according to the law in Australia. Marriage is a serious and binding step that we take in a relationship. That said, it is voluntary and a celebration of a love and commitment between two people to the exclusion of all others made with the firm intention that it will last forever." The AskingLegally, I have to say publicly your full names at least once in the ceremony – and the Asking has become a smooth way to incorporate this. Before you exchange your vows, it is customary, though not compulsory, for me to ask you one of the following statements (you can mix and match them if you prefer)….or you are invited to write your own at the bottom of this section. X will you take X to be your wife/husband/partner/spouse, Will you love and cherish her/him, Stand by her whatever may come, Will you give your relationship all that it requires and deserves, So that you can live together in love and happiness forever. X will you take X to be your lawful wedded wife/husband/partner/spouse? Will you love and respect him/her, Be honest with him/her, And stand by him/her through whatever may come, So you can genuinely share you life together. X will you take X to be your wife/husband/partner/spouse, your lifelong partner? Will you constantly try to stay aware of your relationship with her/him, striving to communicate with her/him, sensitive to her/his needs, wanting her/his success and happiness through all the years ahead? Do you come here freely, and without reservation, To enter a relationship as companions living together as husband and wife/partner/spouse, enjoying equality? Do you promise to love, respect, assist and look after each other for the rest of your lives? (answer together “We do”). Do you, X, take X, to be your life partner and wife/husband/partner/spouse? Will you share your life with her/him, with all that you have and all that you are? Will you support her/him, encourage her/his dreams, laugh with her/him, and be her/his friend throughout all the days of your life together? X and X, do you promise that you will be kind, faithful, affectionate, tender and a true companion during your life together? (answer together “We do”) You may prefer to develop your own instead.The RingsUntitled X, with this ring, I marry you. I give you this ring as a symbol of my love. As it encircles your finger may it always remind you that you are surrounded by my enduring love. Today I, X, give you, X, this ring as a symbol of my love and commitment to you.I promise to respect and support you through all the triumphs and challenges ahead. Thank you for the belief and trust you have in me. I look forward to sharing our future together, wherever it takes us. X, with this ring I commit my life to you. Take and wear it as a pledge of my love. And as a symbol of all we share. X, this ring will serve as a reminder that even when we are apart, we are always together. With this ring, I thee wed. This ring I give you. It is my personal gift. My personal promise of love and trust, and pride that you are my wife. This ring means that I give myself to you, a seal of my unending love. X please accept this ring as a symbol of my commitment to you, let it remind you of my eternal love for you and my pride in being your wife. You are my dream and I look forward to sharing our future together, wherever it takes us. You may prefer to develop your own instead. VowsThe only thing that is mandatory with vows is the first statement…no matter what you say afterwards, funny or sentimental, you MUST start with the following words: "I call upon those here present to witness that I X, take you X to be my lawfully wedded husband/wife/partner/spouse" Then the rest is completely up to you! And remember you don't have to say the same things - you can have different vows. I have compiled some examples for you to consider, but if none of them suit feel free to develop or research your own. View Example VowsParty 1 VowsParty 2 VowsReadingsYou may like to pick one or two readings to be read out during the ceremony. I have collected a range of examples available for you to browse through. View Example ReadingsFirst readingName of person performing the reading Relationship to you both Second ReadingName of person performing the reading Relationship to you both RitualsSometimes symbols and rituals can be very meaningful. Are there any cultural rituals that would be meaningful to you? For example, I have conducted weddings that have exchanged wedding crowns such as in orthodox communities, or tea ceremonies - adapted for your purposes of course, but representing your culture of origin. Additionally there are many symbolic gestures that you might feel are appropriate for the occasion. I have collected a few examples that have worked really well in the past but feel free to research or create your own. View Example RitualsPlease describe the ritual and how you would like it to be set out, including the names of those involved or mentioned. Wrapping up the ceremonyCustomarily, we sign your legal documents for about 5 minutes during the ceremony and before your are officially “presented” as newly weds. It gets everything finished from a legal point of view and then you’re on your way. However some couples choose not to have that “down time” during the ceremony and opt to finish the ceremony after the exchange of rings and then mingle with their guests for 15 minutes before I bring them back with their witnesses for a more private signing of their official documents. It’s completely your choice.Wrapping up the ceremony. What would you like to do?WitnessesFirst Witness First Middle Last Relationship to you both Second Witness First Middle Last Relationship to you both Name ChangeThe only thing that remains is your decision about how you want to be “presented” at the end of your ceremony. There’s no obligation to change your name these days of course, and you have 12 months after your wedding to make that choice (free of charge, then you go through Births, Deaths and Marriages if you decide after that time expires). So...Are you changing your name? Yes No Initial PresentationOnce the signing is complete, I make an official statement to close the ceremony by presenting you as a couple. For example: in the marriage of Caitlin Jones and Jordan Brockey: "It is now my great pleasure to introduce to you for the first time as newly weds: Caitlin Jones and Jordan Brockey " How would you like to be presented? Caitlin and Jordan Brockey Caitlin Jones and Jordan Brockey Caitlin and Jordan Mr and Mrs Brockey Δ